I'm so sorry to hear you have to go through this. That you have kids makes this all the more atrocious. Only you can decide whether to leave or not but from your post it sounds like a pretty brutal thing to do. She clearly did not have any concern for your feelings or what her actions would do to her family.

Demand she quit her job and find a new one. She's going to still be working with this guy. You think everything just stops and she won't go for a closet quickie? How could you possibly trust her around him? What she has done is very selfish. Consoling a coworker is one thing, having sex with them and then a full blown affair all with a coverup the whole time?

Wow, just wow. I would never trust my wife again and if you don't have trust, what do you really have?

This is not rocket science. Kick her to the curb, dude.  I mean, unless you like being a cuck.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Let's get one thing straight first of all, you did not take her back for your kids! Anytime someone says that it is just an excuse to justify doing what they wanted to do anyway. Do you think it's really better for your kids to be In a broken home?  even though both parents might physically be together they are far from emotionally together. You have no idea how much harm you are doing to your children by staying with this woman. Additionally I would be absolutely shocked if she actually ends up cutting off contact with this guy completely. She works with him right? Do you really think she's going to be able to avoid talking to him at work? And since she's going to be seeing him everyday do you really think the feelings are just going to go away? She has already proven that she is not opposed to acting on these feelings behind your back. She had no intention of ever telling you and if you had not had proof she would have never admitted it. Anytime someone is forced to break an affair off as opposed to breaking it off on their own, the chances of them continuing the affair are substantially higher. You are making a huge mistake by taking her back and you are simply lying to yourself by saying that you're doing it for your kids. Sure your kids need their mother and their father but if their mother and father cannot be together in a healthy way then they do not need to have this unhealthy Behavior modeled for them so that they can grow up and repeat the same cycle and end up being hurt and hurting others in the same way. Take my word for it you will regret staying with her. I'm sorry it's just the truth. That's not to say that relationships can't work after someone has cheated because they can but they never work after someone has cheated in the way that your wife did. She's not sorry that she did it she's only sorry that she got caught.

Goes to show how spineless the thread starter is to keep a woman like that in his life. Best thing to do would be divorce her and move on with life.

I think you did wrong, you should have taken your texes and things to his wife, and then to their boss and suid him for allowing it on company time. Then let all her family and friends know what was going on. Then maybe after losing her job and a few friends she may do better.

I'm not even sure this is a legit story. It is almost impossible to read and must have been written by a 12-year-old.

When a woman loves you,she loves for real and its always quite obvious. with my partner it was love at first sight and everything was going well until she started acting up. Restraining his mobile from my reach which made me more suspicious.

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Its not the coworker its the woman i would have divorced and gotten custody and cut he  roff slowly from the kids like a addiction till they dont need her anymore

I began to notice my wife was becoming very distant from me over a period of a few months.  We had been married for 23 years, 3 children, in business which was very successful, living the American dream.  She was spending a lot of time tutoring a young man living next door. He was 18, blonde, tall, handsome and from Sweden. Every gal's dream boy. He wanted to improve his English in order to get better grades in his school year as an exchange student. As time went on he was spending more time with her than usual. She worked her schedule around him and everywhere she went he was with her.

Our children were spending the weekend with their grandparents at their cottage. She was supposed to go with her parents and children on Thursday and stay through Sunday. I was away on business and was due home late Friday. I couldn't keep my mind on business and really didn't feel that well. I decided to leave, take an early flight and be home Thursday evening. On the way to the LAX airport, I intended to call my wife and tell her I'm on my way but something told me not to make that call. She and Jens were on my mind and I decided it was time to check this out.

I arrived home about 10:00 pm. The last few days all I could think about was the two of them. While approaching our driveway I turned the headlights off and parked at the entrance. Our house sits back 300 feet from the street. There were no lights on. I quietly walked up the driveway peaked into the garage to see if my wife's car was there...and sure enough, it was.  My heart started pounding, I felt something wasn't right. Luckily when I left I made sure I had 4 keys to get back into the house. One for the garage, one for the door in the garage to the back porch, then one for entering the hall way then into the kitchen. I made it through all of them very quietly. There were no lights on the first floor. I approached the stairway to the second floor and could hear muffled voices along with sounds of a bed pounding slightly. I walked upstairs slowly and as I reached the top the noise was more prominent, turned left, down the hall, our bedroom door was open a few inches, I looked in and then froze in my tracks. There they were, having raw sex, naked, pounding, moaning, groaning. I got so sick to my stomach, my heart was pounding so hard I thought sure they could have heard it. They didn't even notice I was about 2 feet from them...music playing, candles lit. I had all I could to restrain myself from grabbing both of them and beat the crap out of them. Instead, I stood back and turned the light on. Talk about an embarrassing couple. They both grabbed for sheets and as they pulled them over themselves I yanked them off. I was lost for words, shocked beyond belief.

The next several days were bad. Not many words were exchanged. I backed off and never said anything. I waited for her for an explanation. I moved into the spare bedroom. The children were young but suspected something was wrong. I told my wife if the children asked any questions it was up to her to explain.

Jens went back to Sweden. He kept in touch with Mary Ann. I imagine there were phone calls back and forth as well as letters. I filed for a divorce and moved out of the house into an apartment. As time went on we started talking. I still loved her and she still loved me. She felt something was missing in our marriage as I worked long hours and was away often. I thought about that and told her that it was not my fault. Don't blame me. She should have come to me and expressed her feelings rather than cross the line and have an affair with a young man of 18 and she at 40.

We started dating again. We went out at least 2 nights a week or sometimes more. We picked up where we left off with all of our friends. We decided against marriage counseling. The nights we went out or alone at home we talked and talked. I can't explain the hurt and pain I suffered. Mary Ann was the last person that I ever thought would cheat on me. I asked her question after questions of what went on. She felt awkward at first but began to open up about their affair, why, when, where and what they did. Things became easier to talk about. I agreed to many of my faults, traits, etc. We didn't have any sex during our healing time. I waited patiently and didn't push. She knew she did wrong and had a lot of healing to do to try and put that love affair behind her. You can't help your feelings. Time will take care of them. 

If you love your spouse and are a forgiving person a  marriage is worth saving. Do what you have to do. We celebrated our 53rd anniversary this past week. Our daughter and twin sons have blessed us with 7 beautiful grandchildren. Life is good.

Mine decided it was cool to go on a date with the shipper from her company. I was told that she was at a company party. Turned out that her best girlfriend who worked at the next desk knew what was going on, and wanted me to fuck her to get back at my wife. Instead, I got all the info, and was sitting outside the bar where they met for a drink. Half an hour, and they were both in the car and heading toward a motel. So, I wait patiently for five minutes outside their room. Then I knock. It is mid-February, and the asshole comes to the door, naked in a towel. He opens the door, and I yank him outside, then proceed to rearrange his face. I beat him near senseless. Then I call his wife, and tell her where to meet me. My wife is on the bed, crying. Also naked. I yank her out of the room and do not give her an opportunity to get dressed. Her AP's wife arrives, and I tell her what they were up to. She is a little lady, but strong. Her first slap puts my wife on the ground. She kicks my wife in the stomach. She starts crying that I should defend her. I say whores need the shit kicked out of them. We send our respective spouses to where they will not darken our doors for a while. Meantime, I ask his wife if she wants some revenge. She says sure, and I ask if she wants to spend next weekend in Vegas with me. Monday, I go to my wife's office. She sees me breeze by her, and go directly into the owners office. There I tell him about two of his employees having an affair, and I fully intend on suing unless they are discharged with extreme prejudice. He calls in my wife, asks if what I said was true. She is staring daggers at me, and goes yes. She is fired on the spot. Same for the AP, and then I drop my bomb. I tell both of them that they are welcome to go to hell, I am taking his wife away. He tries to punch me, misses and hit my wife. She goes down, and starts to threaten both of us. I tell her that her mom and dad have been advised and they will have to take her in. They will both be watching while I am away, and if you decide you want to spread em for someone else, Mom and Dad will deal with you. I fly out with the AP's wife, and I treat her like a queen. Top end dining, shows, gambling and then I took her to bed. She took utter joy in calling her husband from our hotel room telling him how he would never measure up to me, bigger dick, better lover and knows how to show a woman a good time. She said that she was no longer going to settle for McDonalds, when there is fine dining out there. He swore that he was going to bea the crap out of me. I laughed at him. We returned home. My wife was first to call, asking if I enjoyed his wife. I told her that I enjoyed her thoroghly, and she did me. I asked my wife if she enjoyed watching me have a new life without her. She said that she was an absolute idiot. I told her that she has six months to fix this, otherwise she would have my divorce. She worked her ass off. Ten years later, we are still together, and she remembers her lesson.

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